At the bottom of this is an early history of physical and/or emotional abandonment.  This stems from the lack of an empathetic and emotionally available primary caregiver during critical periods in our early life.  It is very common in situations where at least one parent is absent during these critical developmental stages in life.  The result for some of us is an inability to know how to manage our own emotions, and delayed development of emotional maturity.  The degree of impact on an individual depends on the degree of emotional availability during the developing years within our childhood environment.  A recommended way to overcome this issue is through a process of learning how to re-parent ourselves.

In this case I teach clients how to interact with themselves in an open, empathetic and accepting way.  In essence, the person is learning how to become the loving parent they’ve always needed.  How quickly this occurs depends on the layers of defense the person has developed over the years.  However, through persistence and patience, it is a worthwhile endeavor.